What is self-esteem?
If there's any validity to the theory of determinism -that we are 'fated' from birth to be something or other- is how we handle our understanding of self-esteem.
Self-esteem is the core knowledge you have of your own worth.
When fraught with low self-esteem the tasks that you could easily handle become difficult not because they are really unmanageable and beyond your abilities, but because you -yourself- and no one else thinks they are hard to do.
But no one is born with low self-esteem.
The problem arises out of sad experiences we suffer early in life. Just knowing this point can take us a long way towards a more fulfilling life. People often say, "Don't dwell in the past." How true this is, dwelling in the past really means going over good and bad memories, except that bad memories linger.
No one is born with high self-esteem either.
In my long years as an executive in business, I've observed that the most accomplished individuals are those who exhibit high degrees of self-esteem. Not only are they achievers, but they move with ease in social circles and social circumstances. They are sure of their abilities to complete all kinds of tasks successfully. When I had to delegate duties that required representing the company in high level meetings, charity functions, or lobbying for government contracts, I found that the best candidates were those who thought of themselves highly.
A high self-esteem is an essential ingredient of success in business and in our lives.
What is self-confidence?
From high self-esteem to self-confidence there's a short distance.
Self-Confidence is the manifestation of high self-esteem; it is what people see and appreciate in a person: certainty, decisiveness, and charisma. Just what do we see in a self-confident person?
They speak well. In staff meetings, in doing presentations, in speeches, they shine. They are communicators who think and speak in full sentences, if not paragraphs. Those who are tongue-tied will have difficulty earning promotions, or even considered for plumb assignments.
They are givers not takers. I haven't met one single successful individual who is stingy or petty. They gladly give their time and skills to charitable organizations. Volunteerism is the mark of a successful person.
They are self-starters. They are self-improvers. Although they have earned college degrees, most confident people continue their education in many ways. Some take extension classes; others attend weekend colleges, or are always engaged in some educational activity. They are "course takers." With the advent of the Internet, and the proliferation of webinars, tapes, DVDs, and other media, there's no excuse for individuals to stand on the sidelines while knowledge passes them by.
They are animal lovers. In my experience, employees who speak lovingly of their pets -in some cases with the same enthusiasm as their children- exude self-confidence. They can be trusted to make humane decisions.
They are dreamers.
What is Poise?
Many people associate poise with people's appearance. Wrong! As we saw above, self-esteem and self-confidence are manifested by the body, by outward appearance and behavior. Poise oozes from the soul.
While self-esteem and self-confidence are terrestrial and physical, for these attributes can be observed and apprehended by the senses. Poise is spiritual and seldom understood.
So how does one achieve poise?
Well-poised employees -be they of any level- are concerned with virtues: prudence, fortitude, temperance, and above all justice.
Although well-poised individuals on the surface exhibit an adventuresome spirit, takes risks, live daringly, and sometimes even dangerously, they do that precisely because they have analyzed, anticipated, evaluated, the outcomes. That is to say, they exercise prudence.
It is not that they are impulsive, impatient, and arrogant, or contemptuous of failure; it is not that they trample or step on other's toes, and are blindly ambitious-not at all! It is that they act with courage and fortitude, and with the assurance that the decisions they take are just to everyone involved.
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If there's any validity to the theory of determinism -that we are 'fated' from birth to be something or other- is how we handle our understanding of self-esteem.
Self-esteem is the core knowledge you have of your own worth.
When fraught with low self-esteem the tasks that you could easily handle become difficult not because they are really unmanageable and beyond your abilities, but because you -yourself- and no one else thinks they are hard to do.
But no one is born with low self-esteem.
The problem arises out of sad experiences we suffer early in life. Just knowing this point can take us a long way towards a more fulfilling life. People often say, "Don't dwell in the past." How true this is, dwelling in the past really means going over good and bad memories, except that bad memories linger.
No one is born with high self-esteem either.
In my long years as an executive in business, I've observed that the most accomplished individuals are those who exhibit high degrees of self-esteem. Not only are they achievers, but they move with ease in social circles and social circumstances. They are sure of their abilities to complete all kinds of tasks successfully. When I had to delegate duties that required representing the company in high level meetings, charity functions, or lobbying for government contracts, I found that the best candidates were those who thought of themselves highly.
A high self-esteem is an essential ingredient of success in business and in our lives.
What is self-confidence?
From high self-esteem to self-confidence there's a short distance.
Self-Confidence is the manifestation of high self-esteem; it is what people see and appreciate in a person: certainty, decisiveness, and charisma. Just what do we see in a self-confident person?
They speak well. In staff meetings, in doing presentations, in speeches, they shine. They are communicators who think and speak in full sentences, if not paragraphs. Those who are tongue-tied will have difficulty earning promotions, or even considered for plumb assignments.
They are givers not takers. I haven't met one single successful individual who is stingy or petty. They gladly give their time and skills to charitable organizations. Volunteerism is the mark of a successful person.
They are self-starters. They are self-improvers. Although they have earned college degrees, most confident people continue their education in many ways. Some take extension classes; others attend weekend colleges, or are always engaged in some educational activity. They are "course takers." With the advent of the Internet, and the proliferation of webinars, tapes, DVDs, and other media, there's no excuse for individuals to stand on the sidelines while knowledge passes them by.
They are animal lovers. In my experience, employees who speak lovingly of their pets -in some cases with the same enthusiasm as their children- exude self-confidence. They can be trusted to make humane decisions.
They are dreamers.
What is Poise?
Many people associate poise with people's appearance. Wrong! As we saw above, self-esteem and self-confidence are manifested by the body, by outward appearance and behavior. Poise oozes from the soul.
While self-esteem and self-confidence are terrestrial and physical, for these attributes can be observed and apprehended by the senses. Poise is spiritual and seldom understood.
So how does one achieve poise?
Well-poised employees -be they of any level- are concerned with virtues: prudence, fortitude, temperance, and above all justice.
Although well-poised individuals on the surface exhibit an adventuresome spirit, takes risks, live daringly, and sometimes even dangerously, they do that precisely because they have analyzed, anticipated, evaluated, the outcomes. That is to say, they exercise prudence.
It is not that they are impulsive, impatient, and arrogant, or contemptuous of failure; it is not that they trample or step on other's toes, and are blindly ambitious-not at all! It is that they act with courage and fortitude, and with the assurance that the decisions they take are just to everyone involved.
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